Saturday, January 17, 2015

Saying Goodbye to Drew


Drew had planned every detail of his funeral with Diane during the months that he was so sick.  It was a very beautiful and appropriate funeral for him.  Saying goodbye is no easy task even with a knowledge that we will see him again.  I can admit for the first time that I had a different experience with this funeral.  I was relieved that he was no longer suffering and perhaps my understanding of death deepened as I watched and listened.  Drew like his Dad and Grandparents has completed his earthly life.  He had finished what he was sent to do.  That thought gave me great comfort although I didn't feel like I could share it with others today. Perhaps my own aging has given me a different perspective and a great desire to pass my test.  Grief is an interesting thing and we all grieve in different ways, watching and listening was an interesting experience. Not exactly knowing how to help others in the same situation is difficult.  Watching Kerry and worrying about his wrist and him over using it was constantly on my mind as well.
I will always be grateful that we were able to visit with Drew a few days before he passed away even though it was very apparent that he wouldn't be here much longer.  The place he was buried was so appropriate for him.  He loved the outdoors and the cemetery was up high in a valley with a beautiful view.  The day was cold but crystal clear.  As we waited for Diane to arrive at the cemetery a group of men from the family discovered two different groups of deer standing just up above watching and waiting to get to the beautiful flowers that were left at the grave site.  It just fit.
Saying Goodbye to Drew wasn't easy but I am grateful he is no longer suffering.


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